Romantic attachments eventually turn into genocides, because the two have different goals, and their relationship becomes a battle for supremacy until one walks away. Lifepartnerships are based on win-win agreements, which build trust and set the stage for future agreements.
Each individual has a vocation and an avocation, and with a Lifepartnership, one's avocation is the other's vocation. Each supports and sponsors the other. This is a very strong relationship because it benefits both sides equally to participate.
To find your lifepartner, you must be functioning from within your own capacity, and have established your vocation and avocation.